Mum shares agony as boy, 8, diagnosed with brain cancer a week after getting a squint
A mum has shared how her healthy son’s eye squint turned out to be a sign of a deadly brain tumour – leaving him on borrowed time.
Liesje Love, 43, noticed her eight-year-old son Lachie had developed a squint in one of his eyes three days before Christmas in December 2022.
While he had been his usual energetic self, when the eye started to turn inward Liesje took him to get checked with an optometrist – and the family’s nightmare began.
Lachie was referred to the emergency department and on 6 January – just one week after going to the doctor – he was officially diagnosed with diffuse intrinsic pontine glioma (DIPG), a type of brain tumour.
Horrifyingly, the cancer is deadly with no cure – and limited treatment that can only buy him months of time.
The family were told that children with this diagnosis survived, on average, for nine months – and were advised to “go home and make memories” while they could.
“I was absolutely devastated,” Liesje, a clinical psychologist, told http://NeedToKnow.co.uk of the moment her son was diagnosed.
“He’s so full of life – it just seems too hard to believe as there are no other signs.
“I don’t think there are words to describe how you truly feel [receiving that news].
“Nothing prepares you for this.”
The Auckland, New Zealand-based family were blindsided by the news – particularly given how healthy Lachie appeared to be.
His mum said: “His health was great.
“We had no issues. He was active and high energy.“
On 22 December he started to squint and one of his eyes started to turn in.
“Other than that, he was his usual self.“He was full of energy, swimming every day, having sleepovers and playing sports with his friends.”
After originally seeing an optometrist the following day (23 December), they returned for a follow-up appointment on the 27th.
Liesje said: “The optometrist was worried and referred us to ophthalmology at our local hospital.
“We were seen on the 29th and sent to the emergency department, where they did a CT scan and we were admitted.
“The next day he underwent an MRI and biopsy and they told us about the mass which was clearly seen on the MRI.
“I had already been Googling so had an idea what they were thinking – and unfortunately was right.”
On 6 January, it was confirmed to be a brain tumour.
The specific type, a DIPG, has few treatment options, aside from new trials, though to try and fight it off Lachie started radiotherapy on 23 January.
The family now hopes to start Lachie on a new drug trial after his radiotherapy finished in March.
While these trials offer more time, he will never be cured.
Liesje said: “No one knows how long [we have left].
“There’s also a rebound from the radiotherapy which means things get worse before they get better.
“It could be months.”
For now, Liesje is focused on keeping her son’s spirits up and protecting him as much as possible during the trying times ahead.
She said: “We’ve been protecting him from it [but] he hates blood tests and is annoyed he goes into treatment.
“He has really struggled with treatment recently and this has taken a lot of coaching to get him through it.
“He’s also one of the few DIPG kids who seems to have more behavioural/mood symptoms rather than neurological.
“There seems to be a group that have these symptoms three-six months before the neurological ones, and this has escalated quickly.
“He can be really reactive, aggressive and obsessional, and it can take hours to calm him down.
“We are hoping that radiotherapy will help shrink the tumour enough that we have less of this, as it’s hard for everyone in the hours to see him so distressed, aggressive and unable to be calmed down.”
Despite being a clinical psychologist, Liesje says no training could ever have equipped her to deal with the diagnosis.
She said: “I had thought that I would be helping my kids deal with the death of our family dog soon, not this.
“I spend my days working with grief, but nothing prepares you for this.”
Lachie had a setback in May, being admitted to hospital for nine days and becoming unable to move his body or speak clearly.
Liesje said: “[We were] preparing ourselves to say goodbye.”
Fortunately, his condition has improved since and he is able to sit up unaided, can talk again, and is back to joking with his “good sense of humour”.
The youngster is also going to school for a couple of days a week for an hour or so.
Now, he is likely to undergo another round of radiotherapy later this year, and in the meantime his family are focused on making memories with him.
Liesje added: “We are trying some immune boosters and vitamins to keep him as healthy as we can, and planning holidays.
“We’re also looking for fun experiences for Lachie and his little brother.
“This might be swimming with sharks at the local aquarium, concerts – he’s super keen to see Blake Shelton and Imagine Dragons – and just general fun activities.”
