A woman has shared her rather unusual relationship set-up with her boyfriend – who regularly sleeps in a cage, wears a collar and caters to her every whim.
Sarah Button, 27, and her partner Bradley, 38, enjoy a “consensual power exchange” where she orders him about and even pays him a full-time wage to act as her assistant.
Bradley’s tasks vary from housekeeping to ‘serving’ Sarah’s sister – who lives in the same flat – and even looking after his girlfriend’s dates.
The couple have been dating for six months and couldn’t care less what other people have to say about their kink.
Sarah and Bradley are choosing to share their story not to shock and awe but to educate people on different lifestyles.
“The relationship is basically a consensual power exchange,” Sarah, who earns her living as an OnlyFans model but also works in social media, marketing and advertising, told Need To Know.
“Bradley relinquishes control of his decisions and acts in more of a serving way.
“I’m his ‘mistress’.
“Bradley sleeps in a cage, wears a collar and has an ownership tattoo that says ‘property of Sarah Button’ – he even wears a 24/7 chastity belt, for which I have the keys and make all the decisions regarding.
“People say it’s cruel but Bradley is very happy.
“And I’ve really taken to this like a fish to water, it’s the perfect example of a modern female-led relationship.
“Outside of our at home roles, we live a normal life.”
Sarah shares details of their relationship with her 198,000 followers online, who are often left stunned with many people expressing concern for Bradley.
While he understands their hesitation to embrace this type of lifestyle, he makes it clear that he is very happy.
Bradley said: “I am treated very fairly and the communication is always open if I ever feel we need to talk about something.
“I love this dynamic because it finally lets me be the most real version of myself.
“I have always wanted to delve deeper into submission but was never able to.
“With this dynamic, I get the opportunity to explore without any kind of judgement.
“I get to be happy and myself.”
For Sarah, this is her first time enjoying this type of relationship dynamic but Bradley has been in the lifestyle as a submissive for over a decade.
Sarah said: “I’ve always been more dominant in my relationships and I was curious about being served, having posted about it online in places such as Fetlife [a fetish community platform].
“Bradley’s previous owner had reached out to me because he’d gotten a new partner that wasn’t inclined to have the dynamic continue.
“From there, I interviewed Bradley and had him come and serve daily in a shift-based role and over time I indulged some of the kinks he had mentioned, such as the sleeping cage, because he had served so well.
“He built the sleeper cage and had the first sleepover and it really just felt right, it’s really developed over time.
“He moved in full time and we travel together, he’s a part of the family now, living with me and my sister.
“I pay Bradley a full-time wage as an assistant so that’s his full time job, I support him so he can support me completely.”
As for the props, the ‘eternity collar’ includes a pet tag of Bradley’s name and his ‘owner’s’ phone number – it requires a screwdriver to unhook and he also has matching bangles.
The couple – based in Brisbane, Australia – have a “wide array” of chastity cages including one made from stainless steel.
Their sex life is an adventurous one as well, with Bradley devoted to his girlfriend’s needs – from giving her oral sex for hours to playing with her feet.
When it’s bedtime, Bradley will head back to his sleeping cage, which is purpose-built and has thick black bars.
Sarah said: “He loves going into the cage and watching his iPad at night, he loves the sound of the lock clicking shut etc.
“It’s a ritual for us.
“I enjoy how authentic it all is and how it’s not just for sexual excitement.
“Bradley and I have a lot more communication than any regular partnership and that creates space for a lot of self-assuredness, which is very liberating.
“My sister lives with me as well but Bradley only serves her domestically – they have more of a brother-sister relationship.
“My whole family is aware that he sleeps in a cage and they’re fine with it.”
Bradley added: “I can understand that people might not think it’s fair.
“It’s hard for people who aren’t directly involved in the dynamic to know exactly what goes on.
“They only see a little glimpse into what we do day-to-day.
“I have learnt that communication and honesty are key for anything.
“I wear my collar permanently and when they asked, I told them.
“My family and friends are very supportive.”
Sarah still dates other men but is upfront about her partner and their roles.
Some of them get scared off when finding out but others are intrigued – with a few of her dates even getting sexually pleasures by Bradley, who enjoys this as part of his ‘service’.
She said: “I have dated while having Bradley in this dynamic.
“It’s something people know about me and accept as a part of my lifestyle.
“I have also had him serve guys I’m dating in a sexual manner as well.”
In public or when amongst family, the pair still maintain their dynamic but in a more discreet manner.
Sarah added: “Bradley serves me publicly as well but we don’t like to offend people of course, so I don’t have him on a leash – but he knows his place absolutely and holds all bags and completes all tasks I ask of him.
“In family settings, it’s very much like having a very attentive partner that gets me coffee and does everything I ask of him, helping with dinners and feeding the animals, doing his chores.
“Punishments and rewards are a heavy aspect in the dynamic, with rewards being things like being unlocked/released, going to Disney, getting to play games, new figurines and things like that (Bradley is very nerdy, it’s adorable).
“But we also hold hands to cross the street and I’ll give him a cuddle when I see he needs it.”
Bradley added: “People are entitled to their opinions, but for me it’s mind over matter – if I don’t mind, then it doesn’t matter.
“Ultimately we are both happy and if for any reason that changes, we talk with each other and work it out.
“It’s like any relationship.”
