A TikToker has revealed that she won’t cook or sleep with her rich dating partners as she is “completely useless and proud of it.”
Jenny Jakkila said she has “radical views on straight relationships” after initially splitting bills 50/50 with her first serious boyfriend.
She said: “During the time we were together I became increasingly unhappy, exhausted and eventually burned out while juggling work, university and that 50/50 relationship.
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“When I realised I could not go on like that, my ex stepped up and decided to become a full-time provider.
“When I had the time and energy to focus on my health and well-being, I also got more and more into spirituality and manifestation.
“And learned a lot about feminine energy and its magnetic powers.
“Meanwhile, I also saw the shift in my ex when he fully embraced his masculine role as a provider.
“And within a month his business skyrocketed.”
She added: “After that we were happily together for a few more years.
“Travelling to nearly 30 countries while he took care of all the finances, but we eventually decided to go our separate ways.”
The ‘provider man’ trend has seen an increasing number of women only looking for partners who are able to provide for their financial and practical needs.
Jenny, who comes from Finland and currently lives in Berlin, Germany, explained: “In my opinion, a provider man is someone who wants to take care of women, especially their woman.
“For these men, it is a matter of honour to be a provider, protector and problem solver to women and make their lives easier.
“A provider man deeply respects and adores the feminine, and they are not calculating who gets ‘more’ in a relationship.
“I do not believe in traditional gender roles and I despise being mixed with the tradwife movement.”
Jenny, 30, said women should only be with men who “benefit them somehow.”
“The man needs to bring something concrete into woman’s life, pay the bills, give gifts, run errands and elevate woman’s life,” she told Need To Know.
“What men get from women is priceless: just woman’s presence is healing for a man.
“The amount of joy and light she can bring into his life, how much a man’s status gets boosted when he is out with a beautiful woman.
“How much emotional labour women do for men who can’t deal with their emotions, and so on.”
Jenny said she always waits between three to four months before deciding if it is worth committing to a dating partner.
She explained: “I do not believe in intimacy before a committed relationship.
“I see physical intimacy as an energy exchange and there are very few men whose energy I would like to mix with, let alone all the other risks like pregnancy and STDs.
“I think it’s wise to date a man for at least three to four months before even thinking about committing, because consistency really is the only way to uncover someone’s true character and intentions.
“But even if I am only dating a man, I still expect him to provide for me because I give him my time and energy.
“I have of course been treated with gifts like handbags, clothing and holidays.
“That’s because I only date men who are in a good financial situation, who can at least sustain my current lifestyle, preferably elevate it.
“I prefer entrepreneurs with a growth mindset.
“And of course with my travel lifestyle, nomadic entrepreneurs are my favourite.”
Due to her strong beliefs on relationships, Jenny said she receives lots of threats online.
But fortunately she is able to shrug it off.
She explained: “I get tons of violent threats from men, especially sexual violence.
“I think that is a sad reality of any woman who has an online presence.
“They do not affect me and I do not take them seriously, especially because I do not live in Finland where most haters are residing.”
Jenny believes many women are “conditioned to believe blindly in love and men” through “propaganda in movies, books and music.
“Patriarchy drives this ‘pick me culture’, which causes women to center men and view their attention and validation as some kind of ‘achievement’.
“This Disney-type fantasy around romantic love grooms girls and young women into giving men the benefit of doubt, and leads to so many women getting played, abused, or even completely traumatised in their youth.
“So there are many women keep getting played, abused, and completely traumatised in their youth.”
When it comes to choosing partners, Jenny admits “women should be selfish”.
She said: “I am completely useless and proud of it.
“I do not bring anything to the table.
“I do not cook, clean and do not even want to live with a man to be honest.
“Women are conditioned to give and give and give until they have nothing left.
“Men are instinctively selfish and if a woman wants to deal with them, she really needs to put herself first to make sure she is not being played.
“A woman is always a prize.
“A woman is inherently worthy, and a masculine man understands that.”
She added: “And a man should always pay, that is the least he can do while a woman gives up her priceless time, energy, and attention and literally puts herself at great risk by even associating with him.”
