A polyamorous couple who have been on dates with over 100 women together in the last decade have finally found the one to complete their relationship – and they hope to have kids as a trio.
Jess and Stephen DeMarco, from Tampa, Florida, both in their thirties, have been virtually dating Mary Neghedi, 20, for three months but in January 2022, they were finally able to meet their girlfriend in person.
The couple, who run an OnlyFans page together and are in the top 0.1% of creators on the site, are hoping that Mary could be the one they settle down with permanently and even start a family with.
Jess and Stephen have been together for 13 years and have a long history with polyamory, having first opened up their relationship in 2012 because Jess, who is bisexual, missed having sex with women.
As for Stephen, he is happy to go along for the ride.
“We’ve dated close to 100 women over 10 years,” Jess told Jam Press.
“Stephen and I are primary partners that have been together for 13 years and we date women together, looking for a female partner so I can be fulfilled, and he just lucked out on a lottery of a lifetime.
“I enjoy seeing my partners with each other and seeing them make each other happy sexually and in normal day-to-day tasks or adventures.
“Love is multiplied in a poly relationship.
“When I met Stephen, he knew I was bisexual and was mostly dating women at the time.
“However, it was just perfect with him.
“About two years in, I was missing women sexually in my life so much it felt like I was making a decision to cut a big part of myself out of my future because I chose a man, though had I chosen a woman it would have been the same feeling, just reversed.
“I brought up missing women and needing to fill that void to Stephen about two years into our relationship, after seeing non-monogamous lifestyles on TV shows.
“We had a conversation about it, made our own rules and then went from there.”
Although they are not legally married, the pair held a commitment ceremony on their 10th anniversary in 2019 and share the same surname.
After a decade of dating, they have finally found the missing piece in their relationship.
Stephen and Jess were introduced to Mary through mutual friends and after several virtual dates were able to meet in person for the first time last month.
The trio are now in a “closed relationship” and don’t sleep with other people.
Mary, who currently lives in Virginia, is hoping to move to Tampa to be closer to her partners.
Jess said: “We don’t just ‘hook up’ with women without the intent to continue growing with them.
“The dynamic of our throuple actually has four relationships in one.
“Mine and Stephen’s relationship, Mary’s and my relationship and his and her relationship – then the relationship we have as a whole.
“We are dating but that means something so different then back 13 years ago when Stephen and I met.”
Mary, who has been in a poly relationship in the past, added: “I have always wanted something poly and to find two people who understand where I’m coming from – it feels so good to have that comfort.
“Their personalities are also the same as mine.”
The trio do everything together – enjoying weekend brunches, Netfllix nights, soaking in the hot tub and sleep in the same bed whenever they are all together.
It’s important that no one is left out.
Jess said: “Yes, we can go out on separate dates but we don’t want to leave anyone at home, so typically we will choose to go out all three together.
“But of course if two wanted to go off while one chose not to, that’s cool too.
“We do all sleep in the same bed, we ‘Netflix and chill’, have nights in the hot tub or sunsets at the beach.
“We love doing everything a normal couple does and experiences, just as a trio.”
There could be a fourth addition on the way very soon too.
Jess said: “We’ll be trying to get pregnant soon and the end goal is always to live together as a whole, as one big family.
“I want kids, if Mary wants kids all of us would be under one roof.”
Stephen’s family has been “great” at accepting the unusual set-up however not everyone has taken the news as well.
Jess isn’t on speaking terms with her birth family and Mary – who is also an OnlyFans model – is from a very traditional family, so has not told anyone about her new romance except for her sister and some friends.
But the trio don’t care about other people’s opinions.
Jess said: “Friends and younger family understand a little better and are definitely the more accepting ones, but if family didn’t accept us for who we are, we cut people out of our lives, no matter who they are and our previous status of relationships.
“It hurts when family thinks it’s ‘just a phase’ or something they didn’t need to know because it’s a ‘bedroom thing”.
“But we want Mary to raise our children so that statement is just sad.”
Jess and Stephen also discuss and share their relationship on their OnlyFans page CliqueBaitTV and on social media (@cliquebaittvdenver and @cliquebaittvplayhouse), where they have over 600,000 followers.
While most people are positive towards the poly lifestyle, others can leave nasty comments but the throuple aren’t bothered about negative feedback.
Jess said: “Of course, people always comment on our relationship online because that’s what we put out there and we just let the comment section be a connecting spot for others to share their thoughts and their feelings.
“We don’t ever take any of that stuff personally.”
For anyone considering a poly lifestyle, Jess says the key thing is communication and avoiding jealousy by being open about your feelings.
Jess said: “A throuple really only works if both parties are interested in it.
“If both are straight a polyamorous triad wouldn’t be the fit, but polyamory can be done a million ways.
“To say that jealousy doesn’t ever happen would just be a bald-faced lie.
“You would think a jealous moment would be an act of sex or something physical but it’s usually not that at all – it’s often small things.
“Each throuple is different depending on their third.
“It’s just like each romantic relationship you’ve ever had – it’s always different.”
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