A throuple who have been together for eight years say their biggest obstacle has been their “disapproving” families.
Jeffrey Eneyi says he and his partners have faced disapproval and judgment from their relatives, as well as on social media, since they announced their relationship.
The 33-year-old claims his throuple status – with his partners Chidinma Eneyi, 29, and Precious Eneyi, 26 – has “not been completely accepted”.
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“Some of our families reacted with fear, denial, or outright rejection at least at first,” Jeffrey told Need To Know.
“And they may never fully approve, but with time will move toward tolerance or acceptance when they see alignment, maturity, and love rather than scandal.”
Jeffrey and Chidinma, who are currently building a fashion brand, were initially a couple.
Then Jeffrey met Precious, a fashion influencer.
He said: “As a man, I always felt a strong desire to always tell the truth, so as to live freely in my experience in the world.
“I could barely live a life of hide and seek – so I expressed my true feelings of wanting to be with some other person to Chidinma.
“I was able to, because the love I perceived she has for me was beyond romance.
“It felt like a love made from before we both came to this world.
“It made me feel I could be completely vulnerable with her and tell her my deepest thoughts.
“This was also possible because I would rather lose the relationship than lie to her – I always believe in alignment and truth as the base for true love.
“Not the kind of love the world deceives most people with.”
He added: “I met Precious and fell in love with her and with a strong desire to always be truthful to every woman I met, made me introduce both of them to each other and things felt natural between everyone.
“I decided to have a relationship with both women.”
Jeffrey, who is based in Lagos, Nigeria, says it hasn’t always been an easy path, with each partner needing to truly get to know each other.
The throuple has worked their way to where they are now and are now planning to spend the rest of their lives together.
He added: “The moment that made us understand it as love, rather than an experiment, was the choice to spend the rest of our lives together.
“This conversation actually stemmed from Chidinma’s idea, which got us to secure our relationship on a level that has Precious as my wife as well.”
Jeffrey says being in a throuple can be vastly different to acting as a couple.
He said: “In our throuple, the truth is a non-negotiable; we communicate about everything truthfully.
“Truth is the foundation everything stands on. Being in a throuple forces clarity.
“We had to learn each other’s minds, emotional patterns, and needs, deliberately.
“That work created deep knowing and intimacy.
“It’s more communication, clarity, work and devotion than a couple.”
He added that the three of them aim to keep things as equal as possible at home too, sharing out chores and daily tasks to whoever has the time.
Jeffrey said: “We love to help each other depending on what each person can do at a given time.
“We also have domestic workers who do the major tasks.”
Although it is becoming increasingly common, many people don’t realise that their sort of relationship isn’t just about bedroom kinks, Jeffrey said.
He added: “It’s not all about sex.
“We work through jealousy, insecurity, fear – that takes maturity and most people never practice.”
He claims that having a “shared vision”, as well as support in financial, mental and spiritual aspects of life, are major bonuses to being in a three-way romance.
While Jeffrey doesn’t believe being in a throuple is for everyone, he encourages anyone who wants to try it to be “bold enough”.
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