A professional escort says she is regularly hired by men who are married or in a relationship – but she doesn’t consider herself a “home wrecker”.
Elizabeth Romanova has been escorting for more than a decade, and says she often deals with married men and women who are in the “emotional in-between”.
The mum-of-one, who is in her early 30s, has regular clients like this – some of whom she sees on a weekly basis, while it’s a “monthly ritual” for others.
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“I often meet men in the emotional in-between,” Elizabeth, who is from Northamptonshire told Need To Know.
“They haven’t left, but they’ve already disengaged.
“Seeing me becomes a place of honesty, sometimes it’s the only place they feel fully present.
“What they’re really seeking is consistency, softness, and understanding.”
Elizabeth has been doing this work since the age of 18 and says she realised “quite early on” that some clients were not single.
She added: “Men don’t usually announce it, but their behaviour tells you everything – the caution, the scheduling, the way they hold parts of themselves back.
“At first, I was curious.
“Now, I’m just aware. I don’t see myself as a home-wrecker; I’m not entering anyone’s marriage. I’m meeting men where they already are.”
She occasionally deals with women who are in relationships too, though Elizabeth says this happens less often.
Elizabeth said: “Women who cheat tend to do so very consciously.
“It’s rarely impulsive.
“When women come to me, it’s usually because they feel unseen, undesired, or emotionally abandoned.
“The energy is different, but the motivation – wanting to feel alive again – is the same.”
According to Elizabeth there are tell-tale signs that a client is hiding their activities from their partner, including how often they’re available and their willingness to be emotional.
She added: “They live by boundaries they didn’t set themselves.
“Limited availability, no overnight stays, phones permanently on silent, and a need for absolute discretion.
“Emotionally, many arrive quite contained, then gradually unravel.
“The clearest sign is how carefully they separate their time with me from the rest of their life.”
When she does deal with two-timing clients, Elizabeth says they often have the same stories or excuses.
These include everything from a lack of physical intimacy to emotional distance in their relationships.
Elizabeth said: “‘I feel invisible’ is by far the most common explanation, alongside dead bedrooms, emotional distance, and marriages that have become logistical rather than romantic.
“Children, finances, and history – there are many reasons people stay despite those things.
“Very few of these men see themselves as reckless; most feel they’ve already lost something and are quietly trying to find it again”.
Clients in relationships regularly request things like intimacy without expectation, emotional connection without judgment, and fantasy, she says.
Elizabeth, who advertises her services on Vivastreet, added: “[They want] a space where they can be desired without the weight of who they are at home.
“Sex is often the least complicated part.”
For Elizabeth, relationship status is irrelevant to how she deals with a client.
She said: “I charge for my time, discretion, and the experience I provide.
“I don’t profit from guilt – and I don’t police anyone’s private life, either.”
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