A woman has revealed that being confident is “ruining” her dating life as men are “too intimidated” by her.
Hayli Hooper often hits the headlines due to her double life as a nurse and a stripper.
The 38-year-old turned to the pole in an effort to make more money to cover her living expenses, tax payments and investments.
And the raunchy side gig has caused some difficulty when it comes to dating, as she claims men are “intimidated” by her.
“The more successful you are, the fewer men can handle it,” Hayli, who boasts 58,000 followers on Instagram (@haylihooper ), told Need To Know.
“I think when it comes to s*x, they get nervous around me.
“They fumble around a lot and don’t last long.
“Maybe there’s a lot of pressure because of my work, and they worry that they’re not going to perform like the standard I’m used to.
“But I think it’s all due to my confidence.
“They can’t understand it, and get intimidated by me.
“It’s a nightmare trying to find someone willing to have a committed relationship with me.”
Hayli, who isn’t getting herself down about the feat, says it’s happened on multiple occasions.
She said: “I went on a date with this guy who I was speaking to for around six weeks.
“We ended up catching up, so I spent thousands on a fancy hotel room and dinner.
“I also spoiled him with gifts – but when it came to getting down in the bedroom, he couldn’t get it up.
“He said he was too overwhelmed and that he couldn’t go through with it.
“I’ve been told by a lot of men that I’m quite intimidating, which does hurt.
“I don’t know if it’s because they know I don’t need them to pay my bills or keep me satisfied.
“Or if it’s a testosterone issue.”
Supercreator, an OnlyFans management and AI platform, found that sex is no longer at the top of the agenda for men in a recent study.
Their findings showed that 78% prefer to speak about their pets, work and even childhood memories.
Hayli, who does go on a lot of dates, says she’s often left making the first move.
She said, “I always walk up to men and start the conversation.
“But they never say they’re interested in me until their friend comes over to tell me.
“I don’t get it; we’re not teenagers.
“Some men have said before that I’m overly confident and that scares them.
“But I don’t know what they want from me.
“It’s the same reason I have so many men in my comments on social media, but none of them message me.
“They’re too scared.
“And it’s exactly why I’ve been single for the last seven years.”
The Western Australian native believes men need to “grow up” or stop complaining.
She added, “Men always moan that women only want gifts and money from them.
“But the second they get a girl who doesn’t want that, only with time and effort, they find it intimidating.
“I don’t have a place in my life that makes them feel needed – and they don’t like that.
“It’s the biggest catch-22.
“I don’t care what people think.
“Men just misjudge my self-esteem and confidence as being cocky.
“And it’s killing my dating life.”
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